My Take on Random Things

Do you ever just get to wondering why people do certain things? Or what people are thinking when they do/say/wear/sing/whatever? This blog is about my musings...
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WHAT IS THE PURPOSE of people (especially teenage girls who are otherwise beautiful) taking vast numbers of pictures of themselves making the most awful faces with tongues hanging out, eyes crossed, etc. What are future mates/employers/children/grandchildren going to think? And if they DO (for some odd, completely unfathomable reason) still want to take the pictures, why do they post them for God and everyone else to see? I don't get it.
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WHY IS IT that when someone is sick, people will call the sick person or someone in the family and ask very specific, very personal questions? Is it really necessary to have the patient have to relive by retelling the entire ordeal? Is that even humane? Several words come to mind that people who know a sick one should work toward making a part of their lives: compassion, empathy, gentleness, discretion, kindness...You get the picture. Sometimes I want to say, "Come ON, people!!" Do you really think they want to call 78 people in a row and recite the entire thing all over again? No way.
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I WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND what makes people want to come up to a person (namely ME) who has lost a loved one and discuss it in a crowd. Or right before I go to class. Or church. Or bed. Or anywhere!! It is my opinion that some people just have to see if there are still tears. How I wish they could know that there always will be-- that they are right at the top-- that the least thing can bring them on-- that there is a time and a place!!!

I have had people (well-meaning ones, I'm sure) come up to me at my school's homecoming reception, where I'm trying to dip punch and refill trays and serve 125 people and take care of the seniors and say, "So, I'm sure you think about Robert a lot." Oh? You think? Really? You think I might occasionally think about my baby son, dead at 21 in a car crash, father of 3 babies, brother to Josh and Lauren, a student of mine, the darling boy who "smiled seetly" and called me "pwetty mama" when he wanted something? Know what I want to say? "HERE'S YOUR SIGN!"
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NOW ON TO FACEBOOK STATUS postings. Can we be honest here? How wonderful is the person you are eating/riding/singing/vacationing/whatever with if you stop in the middle of it and tell everyone what you are doing? I mean REALLY. Friday night Robbie and I went out to eat. He had stayed at the river all week to save money on gas, and I had missed him. We picked up the boys' birthday cake, brought it home, and went to eat. We talked and talked. I filled him in on all that was going on. He told me all about his week. We had a great supper. I had popcorn shrimp. He had a hamburger steak. The restaurant was very nice, the service was good, the price was affordable, and the food was good. None of it was as good as my company. But you know what? It never crossed my mind to take the time to post it on facebook. My  company was too good to take that time away from him. Often I have told my children (biological and school) that if you have to wear your soulmate's name on your shirt/car/truck/bookbag/notebook for people to know you love him/her, maybe you should rethink your actions. That's kind of what I think about those kinds of facebook statuses. Just sayin'...
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GRAMMATICALLY SPEAKING, some things just DRIVE ME CRAZY! Now don't get all "I'm not going to talk around her because she'll correct everything I say" on me. I don't. Well, not in public, anyway. But I do believe there are some fairly basic things that everyone should know.
1. Commas go BEFORE the conjunction (,but  NOT  but, )
2. Alright is NOT a word! Neither is SNUCK or THEIRSELF/THEIRSELVES.
3. All punctuation has a purpose. Use it. It helps your reader understand what you want to say. Consider it a random act of kindness.
4. Word processors and web searches can help with spelling and usage. How cool is that?
5. DONE is used only with a helping verb (have done, has done, had done, is done, are done, am done).
6. Apostrophes were never meant to be dropped in wherever you want to drop them. They are meant to shorten words (contractions) or show possession. An apostrophe does not make a word plural. It amazes me at the businesses and educated public that believe Smith's means more that one Smith. Nope. Ask yourself~~ the Smith's WHAT? Car? House? Dog? Rocking chair? And just because a name ends in -s doesn't change the rule. Williamses is correct for the plural. Williams's is correct for ownership by one Williams. Williamses' means a bunch of Williamses own something.
7. It is not ok to use text messaging symbols in normal writing. Do you really want to read a letter or email or card like this:
aisi, u r my bff. bion, idk what i wud do w/o ur friendship. bta im gud for u 2, dyt? LOL
(As I see it, you are my best friend forever. Believe it or not, I don't know what I would do without your friendship. But then again, I'm good for you too, don't you think? Laughing out loud.)

See the difference?

By the way, neither does it make one bit of sense to add meaningless letters to words (I'm going to the beach todayyyyyyyyy-- does NOT make sense)

I swear I'm going to be a reader/editor one day.
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The End
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At least for now :)